My Dad Died

[ozarkmountainman]

This created a stir in the restaurant-

My dad died a couple of weeks ago. I didn't see any reason to attend the funeral. Is that wrong?

Dale

[bigjohn]

Only you can answer that
You alone have to live with your decision

[bigbob]

I only went to mine's for my Mom's sake. He was an abusive drunk. I really didn't care one way or another.

[trapdog]

I reckon you've got your reasons. That's good enough.

[segsarge]

It was your decision Dale. Nobody can judge you one way or the other, and nobody's business but yours.

[ozarkmountainman]

Well... I never met the man. He left my mom when he found out she was pregnant, then was re-married FIVE MONTHS later (I got that from his obituary). I never met the man- he lived in Jeff and was buried in Marshall... I was put up for adoption and had some pretty terrific parents. And that is ALL that matters. I would have liked to have met my Mom tho'...

Still, a few folks got worked up.

Dale

[bigjohn]

Wasn't your dad just a sperm donor

[ozarkmountainman]

Exactly. Funny thing was, I knew the funeral was on a Friday. I went fishing and it never crossed my mind, that's what sixty years does to you I reckon. Anyway, it's a sad world, but this time it was better for me, I think.

Dale

[segsarge]

Some people get worked up over anything. It amounts to nothing. I got relatives that have passed over the past 10-15 years. Never went to a single funeral. It doesn't bother me, and I could care less what others think.

[bigjohn]

Funerals are for the living. A dead person doesn't know if you're there are not.

I've a problem with folks that cut into a procession going to the cemetery or otherwise show disrespect to it.

[krank]

My Uncle died. Great man. His wife and kids never wanted anything to do with the rest of the family. Had not seen any of them in 40 years. They refused to come to any reunions even though they were near by. I felt no need to comfort them and I couldnt help my uncle so I saved myself a 240 mile drive.

On Yellowstone, John Dutton asked Carter where his father was. Carter said his father was polluting the ground he was buried in.

[tjm]

ask those other folks why they didn't go to that feller's funeral, they were just as close to him as you. And may have known him better; I'll ask though, given your relationship how did anyone even know it was your father?

[ozarkmountainman]

If you're talking to me, I've met some of my sisters. Short of a DNA test, they're pretty close. You know, good looking, smarts, etc.

Dale

[mmaxwell]

My dad died jan 2023, my youngest brother didn't go. At first I thought that was wrong, but after the funeral called and told him he was right and I wished that I had not gone to that jerry springer show.